Where Do We Learn?

Have you ever heard the term transferable skills? Well, I thought it was just something you put on a CV... but a few months ago, I realized that this term doesn't only apply to work life. It applies to every single aspect of our lives.

On a previous post, I was discussing why is it that making mistakes is not something horrible that we must all be afraid of... and on the contrary, mistakes can be powerful learning tools. Well, the same principle applies to all of those activities that might be considered "insignificant" or "a waste of time".

To better illustrate this, let me give you 3 very embarrassing examples from my very own pre-adolescent hall of shame:

The Power of Making Mistakes

“I should write a book about that!”, “we should totally open up a twitter account and post our jokes... we would make millions!”, “one day... I will have my own business so I don’t have to work 80 hours a day until I’m 65”, “Someday I’ll have a six pack, and really defined arms”...

Robert Kiyosaki

I could go on for days. As a matter of fact, I could go on for 24 years, since these are all things I’ve wished, or thought I should do someday or one day.

They say ideas are worthless unless they are turned into actions. The same applies for pretty much everything else, specially to our life dreams. 

Then what keeps us from going from wish and should... to actually making them happen? Wanna take a guess?

Lack of time? Lack of knowledge? 

Lack of experience? Not enough money?

Those are not reasons... Those are excuses. What truly keeps us from taking action is FEAR

But... what is it that we are so terribly afraid of???

Your Dreams Must Be Yours

Life is not an exact science. Is not a science at all. Nobody has an exact recipe or guide to make Life Dreams come true. And I don’t know you, but I sometimes get discouraged when I read or hear some expert saying: “you can become anything you want to be, if you put your heart and soul into it”. But I’ve always felt like there’s something missing in there... What if I don’t really know what is it that I want?? Am I broken?? Am I doomed??

Most kids at some point have wanted to be something when they grow up. I wanted to be an archaeologist... some sort of female Indiana Jones. But as I grew up, somehow, I was lead to believe that it was “impossible” and “crazy”.

Later on, I became a teenager and my dreams changed drastically. Somehow, it wasn’t about what I wanted to be, but who I wanted to be like. I basically wanted to have Carrie Bradshaw’s and Andy Torres’ life, apartment, and wardrobe... I wanted to be independent, attractive and with a lot of adventures, fun and romance.

I was truly convinced that those things, that life, was truly the life of my dreams... I graduated college, got a job, saved enough to move out on my own, bought many clothes, dated, went out on girl nights. I even began to blog about fashion. I was doing it all. I was becoming my heroes. But guess what...  I was miserable.

So I decided it was time to quit that life, and go over my steps and try to find out what had gone so terribly wrong. After careful soul searching, I think I now have a few ideas of what happened. Here are some of the things I realized: